 In this blog post, I am going to focus a little more on the reasons why some people tend to avoid doing the necessary things and take the steps that will bring them closer to achieve a desired goal, and tend to instead do things that usually pull them away from it and its manifestation.All this is happening not on a conscious level but on a subconscious level, it is like a mechanism that is triggered automatically, without the intervention of the conscious mind, and in a way create small self sabotages. This subconscious behavior, is related to some negative experiences from the past and at a very young age, when for some reason, achieving a desire ended up to correspond to a negative experience or fear. Because of the things people were told by their care givers and also because of negative experiences they had. For instance, if the goal was to be more successful at school, and when this person worked really hard on making a small success happen, instead of receive recognition from the teacher, they might have received criticism, so this association was immediately stored in the subconscious mind as negative. Also, if the caregivers were repeatedly saying something like this: If you become powerful or successful, your friends will leave you, or people who like you will become jealous, or something such as: being successful, rich and abundant will bring stress, or reaching success is not something that can be accomplished by normal people like us, but by other people. Also, if in the past people might have been able to reach a goal and be successful in a certain are of their life, while the success lasted, they were experiencing lots of tension and stress or lack of time, they were successful but never had the time to enjoy the success and the abundance they had been working hard to get.
All these factors are responsible for those unconscious responses that are triggered and which sabotage or delay achieving a desired goal! In my next post we will cover the role of hypnosis in improving this erroneous subconscious beliefs and behaviors. If you have questions or comments, I would like for you to post them here, thank you!
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Jack Kahne
1/15/2020 05:33:01 pm
I read the blog, thanks for writing it, so if I understand what you are saying is that beside fear of failure there is another fear, which is hidden deep in the mind and of which I might not even be aware of, and that is the fear of success. Its funny because I never thought of that, but now that it has been revealed, now it kind of rings a bell, we hear a lot about the fear of failure, which is the one responsible for procrastination or self sabotage, but not so much about fear of being successful. I do remember that when I was a little 2/14/2020 07:29:30 pm
Jack thanks for sharing your input. I am glad that this helped you remember, The example you brought up is a very good one, your goal at that time was that of having a smashing new bike that was your dream at that age. And you were almost there, but for some reason you misinterpreted your friend's intention and suddenly you were afraid of being alone, because he might be jealous of you, so without even consciously thinking you decided that it would be so much safer being without your dream bike, You decided subconsciously that reaching a dream or becoming successful may not be safe. This is just an example, but it gives you an idea of what happens subconsciously and why unconsciously some people may be afraid of success. They might have a false belief that friends would become jealous and leave, or that it may bring lack of time and lots of stress, or other negative false ideas. Hope this helps!
Kasshura Kanham
3/13/2020 08:48:58 pm
Yes and I am a living example of fear of success. It has mostly to do with that years back I had a flourishing business in the custom furniture market and was making millions. However I didn't have the time or energy to even enjoy all that financial freedom cause I was always working, 24/7, I felt very stressed, my health was not the best, not so much sleep, and didn't have time or motivation to take any vacation, and my relationship life was terrible. Eventually kind of I think unconsciously I caused my business to fail at the end, and for some time I was very grateful, I needed time, and I had it now and I had time to sleep a lot, to do nothing and enjoy life. However, since then, I have been finding really hard to re-establish another successful business of my own, which I enjoy, like you point out, I start to take all the steps, then I stop and a fear inside, prevents me from following through, and is a fear of re-experiencing the same lack of time, the same chaotic stress and all that, but is mostly unconscious fear. There must be a way though, could you help? What'd you suggest I do? Thank you! Leave a Reply. |
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