 In this blog post, I am going to focus a little more on the reasons why some people tend to avoid doing the necessary things and take the steps that will bring them closer to achieve a desired goal, and tend to instead do things that usually pull them away from it and its manifestation.All this is happening not on a conscious level but on a subconscious level, it is like a mechanism that is triggered automatically, without the intervention of the conscious mind, and in a way create small self sabotages. This subconscious behavior, is related to some negative experiences from the past and at a very young age, when for some reason, achieving a desire ended up to correspond to a negative experience or fear. Because of the things people were told by their care givers and also because of negative experiences they had. For instance, if the goal was to be more successful at school, and when this person worked really hard on making a small success happen, instead of receive recognition from the teacher, they might have received criticism, so this association was immediately stored in the subconscious mind as negative. Also, if the caregivers were repeatedly saying something like this: If you become powerful or successful, your friends will leave you, or people who like you will become jealous, or something such as: being successful, rich and abundant will bring stress, or reaching success is not something that can be accomplished by normal people like us, but by other people. Also, if in the past people might have been able to reach a goal and be successful in a certain are of their life, while the success lasted, they were experiencing lots of tension and stress or lack of time, they were successful but never had the time to enjoy the success and the abundance they had been working hard to get.
All these factors are responsible for those unconscious responses that are triggered and which sabotage or delay achieving a desired goal! In my next post we will cover the role of hypnosis in improving this erroneous subconscious beliefs and behaviors. If you have questions or comments, I would like for you to post them here, thank you!
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Jack Kahne
1/15/2020 05:33:01 pm
I read the blog, thanks for writing it, so if I understand what you are saying is that beside fear of failure there is another fear, which is hidden deep in the mind and of which I might not even be aware of, and that is the fear of success. Its funny because I never thought of that, but now that it has been revealed, now it kind of rings a bell, we hear a lot about the fear of failure, which is the one responsible for procrastination or self sabotage, but not so much about fear of being successful. I do remember that when I was a little 2/14/2020 07:29:30 pm
Jack thanks for sharing your input. I am glad that this helped you remember, The example you brought up is a very good one, your goal at that time was that of having a smashing new bike that was your dream at that age. And you were almost there, but for some reason you misinterpreted your friend's intention and suddenly you were afraid of being alone, because he might be jealous of you, so without even consciously thinking you decided that it would be so much safer being without your dream bike, You decided subconsciously that reaching a dream or becoming successful may not be safe. This is just an example, but it gives you an idea of what happens subconsciously and why unconsciously some people may be afraid of success. They might have a false belief that friends would become jealous and leave, or that it may bring lack of time and lots of stress, or other negative false ideas. Hope this helps!
Kasshura Kanham
3/13/2020 08:48:58 pm
Yes and I am a living example of fear of success. It has mostly to do with that years back I had a flourishing business in the custom furniture market and was making millions. However I didn't have the time or energy to even enjoy all that financial freedom cause I was always working, 24/7, I felt very stressed, my health was not the best, not so much sleep, and didn't have time or motivation to take any vacation, and my relationship life was terrible. Eventually kind of I think unconsciously I caused my business to fail at the end, and for some time I was very grateful, I needed time, and I had it now and I had time to sleep a lot, to do nothing and enjoy life. However, since then, I have been finding really hard to re-establish another successful business of my own, which I enjoy, like you point out, I start to take all the steps, then I stop and a fear inside, prevents me from following through, and is a fear of re-experiencing the same lack of time, the same chaotic stress and all that, but is mostly unconscious fear. There must be a way though, could you help? What'd you suggest I do? Thank you! 5/7/2020 07:22:11 pm
Kasshura, thank you for sharing this amazingly insightful experience. Yes, that is correct, that is another type of fear of having success. For you now, since you went through in an adult life, it is consciously clear that it is the block underneath your moving forward toward your goal, which is the one of re-creating a successful business again. However as you can see, the subconscious mind is more powerful than your conscious desire, and so it will do all possible, to stop you and sabotage the further steps, without you being aware, it is automatic. That part of you is so afraid of experience stress and lack of time again, so it will stop you. The key is too convince that subconscious part of your mind that you can re-create a flourishing business again, without being stressed and without the lack of time or energy. It is possible!! And yes, the only way how to do that is to reach directly that part of the mind and neutralize that fear and reprogram that negative hidden response. And that is possible to do with hypnosis, you can read more about my own experience at this link
Narjami Vedaste
5/22/2020 06:37:29 pm
I was referred to this blog by someone else, I was looking for some local EFT practitioners to overcome some blocks I have had for quite some time now. I enjoyed readings all your blog posts. Have a question, what about some internalized fear of rejection? Does this apply? Can that be the cause for not moving forward toward the realization of a dream? Meaning, think if I follow through and succeed to accomplish something, either a business or a career or some accomplishment, think if I do but then nobody likes it, nobody will like me or what I do? Isn't that a perfect example of fear of rejection? can you post some feed back on this please? thanks a lot! 6/25/2020 06:27:27 pm
Narjami, thanks for sharing such valuable insights. Yes, fear of rejection is the most common hidden fear. People experience rejection already at birth, when they are evicted from the mother's womb, that is the first vibration of rejection human beings have. so as there is nothing they can do about it, it is not forgotten but repressed deep inside in the subconscious mind and will always be there. There are different degree of this negative emotions, and different degree of being aware of it. You clearly did a good job in identifying it already, that is a good start. So I would suggest some healing of this emotion, through hypnosis or other energy medicine, to neutralize and heal and reprogram this destructive subconscious trigger. You can check my page at www.hypnosis-portland.com/stop-smoking where I talk more about this. I hope this helps!
Dawn Gerkowski
7/2/2020 07:00:09 pm
Hi, I found this blog by searching online for the law of attraction. I am in a similar situation, similar to those mentioned above, I have this project going, almost finished, is a crystal healing, healing candles and aromatherapy shop, all the heavy duty work is done, now just to do some finishing up and some marketing, not much, since I already have some clients. But for some reason I never feel motivated to open the shop and and start the business on a much larger scale. I am saying for some reason...but I think I feel the reason might be that when I was very young, about 7 years old, I was very good at skating, I won some local contests, and I was considered a little champion by my community and I loved skating, it was all I knew. Then had a terrible accident, fell and broke my leg, my foot, my arm and got some brain concussion. It was very painful to recover and it took way too long to go back to normal. After that my parents did not allow me to skate ever again, but I did not want to either, I was too scared. Do you think that this is related to my lack of motivation, my lack of energy in moving forward with my dream project and become even more successful? Plz help, any advice you give will be taken seriously and will follow through! Thank you! Thanks for this blog, is fantastic!! Leave a Reply. |
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