 This week at Hypnosis of Portland I would like to focus on a subject about which I have received quite few requests. Real Love and Romance, however in this first part, we are not going to talk so much about the good feelings and the beauty a healthy loving relationship can bring,rather we are going to talk about the other side of love, the hurt and the heartbreak love can cause, which almost all human beings happen to experience at least once in their lifetime! So why, it is very painful and it hurts, a lot, if a romance comes to an end, unexpectedly, either because one of the two people involved has fallen in love again with someone else or because of disagreements or personality conflicts?
Maybe, if you would have a better understanding of what on a deeper level of your mind and emotions, really goes on when something like this happens, you may get some emotional relief, if you might be going through some breakup. By looking deeper at the difference between the subconscious mind conscious mind, and also know a bit about the intelligence of the heart and its magnetic field (The HeartMath Institute's research has proven the heart has actually neurons and is intelligent, even more so than the brain) -you will understand the reason, you feel really hurt and totally lost and alone and everything around you just looks and feels terrible..if someone you love or with whom your are very much in love- decided to leave the relationship, which is very much connected, to something or some experiences that occurred to you when you might have been very small, maybe 6 or even much younger. It may have been that your favorite uncle or even your grandfather whom you loved and above all, trusted very much, might have promised you to take you to the movie after lunch. So you might have asked your mother to help you dress in the best outfit you had and prepare yourself for the exciting event with your favorite person, and maybe you might have waited and waited for hours, in the back yard, with a boring aunt, waiting for your grandfather to come and get you, and time passed by and in the end it became dark and it was time to have supper and your grandfather never came to get you and take you to the movie as he had promised you.Then before going to sleep you might have discovered that your grandfather had actually taken your older cousin to the movie instead than you. Imagine how you felt when you found this out? Betrayed? Cheated, abandoned, rejected, or all together. Your grandfather had not intended to hurt you, he might have wanted to take you to the movie, but then he might have thought you were too young and it may have been too boring for you to watch a long movie. However, since you were too young and the conscious mind had not yet developed, you could not understand this, and you could not express or process these negative emotions and you stored them in the basement of your mind.. then you forgot about them, you grew up and then met the perfect guy or girl, and fell in love for the first time, then he/she decided to leave you. I wonder if you start to get a better understanding of where this is leading and why you feel this way now in the present time??? There are also other reasons why you feel so hurt and we will continue talking about this matter in my next post, to cover them. Please, visit this blog in a week or so to read the continuation of this post, in the meanwhile, your comments, questions are all so welcome
8 Comments
Lorenna McDowen
1/2/2024 07:56:42 pm
Annalee, I have been following most of all your posts on this blog, and this is the most amazing post so far, wow, I was going to mention myself the correlation between childhood past experiences and present relationships, I am sure I would have suggested it even if you have not brought it up! I also have a PhD in psychology and even so, it took me long time in my life before I realized why people have hard time getting or taking very long time getting over a heartbreak, but I am not going to spoil the continuation of your next post, I am not going to ramble any more, I let you talk about it, I can't wait to read more, thank you!
Lorena, thank you for sharing a very insightful comment, it will help other readers. You are so right, the reason why it is not that clear that painful experiences in the present and the negative feelings they generate, are related to very resistant negative memories from childhood, is because it is hidden, it is not a conscious knowledge but is an underlying belief, stored in the subconscious, and it is triggered automatically, without being aware, when something similar is experienced again, not the same, but similar, I am sure this all makes sense to you!
Joe Harmon Lavoire
2/2/2024 07:35:12 pm
I have been readings all of your posts. .now I am getting impatient..so why does it hurt so bad and why do we suffer when there is a heartbreak? And what is the secret then to overcome this negative feeling and to stop the pain, or at least to heal and move on and be free, much quicker than we normally do? That is what I really am interested about, please.. let us know. and we will use it when /if it happens, thank you!! Joe, I wanted to thank you for contributing to this blog with your candid comment! I totally understand your curiosity and impatience. Well, you have to wait for my next post for more details, However, i can already tell you that the reason it really hurt (and it does not have to) it is because it has to do with a certain conditioning people received when they were very young, some rejection they experienced and their perceptions of it, it is the Ego that gets hurt, not the heart, if you learn how not to take it personally and be led by your Ego, but let go and be led by your heart instead, it will not affect you that much and you will be able to deal with it graciously and speed up the healing, but follow the next posts for more
Portia Elliss Mottier
3/12/2024 07:24:52 pm
Hi, I like your post, I have been feeling as if I should come and have a session with you, I just broke up with my boyfriend and yes it hurts a lot and this is the 4th relationship that has failed for me and the way it ends is always like this a break up I was not expecting and the person I thought loved me, out of a sudden gets tired of me and wants to leave me,, I do know I had a traumatic childhood, my family was not very loving and I remember feeling something similar when I was very small as well,can you clarify why this always happens to me, and will a hypnotherapy session really help? 3/23/2024 09:23:40 pm
Portia, thank you for sharing your own experiences here, it is an honor to me, and I know others will find it very helpful. I am sorry to hear that. But the good news is that there is nothing wrong with you, you are not broken, you are not a failure nor have a curse, I want to make sure you know this, because this is usually what people think all the time, from my experience in the hypnosis and energy psychology fields. Oh and btw I really wanted to add that....Yes there is a pattern that is running in the background, and you are sabotaging the relationship subconsciously, but it may be also because you a\are used to choose the same kind of partners, who have problems and so the cycle repeat,. Portia, I wanted to add that the other good news, is that, yes, you can definitely change this pattern and release and heal though some hypnosis sessions. Once you heal that negative pattern in you then you will also attract people vibrating at a higher frequency who do not get tired or run away so easy, and overall, your life will improve in any ware, because you are not going to sabotage all the things you like, anymore,, email me through this website and I will tell you more how this program works and how you can schedule your first session, if that is what you want.. I hope this helps Leave a Reply. |
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