This week I would like to focus on a subject about which I have received quite few requests. Real Love and Romance, however in this first part, we are not going to talk so much about the good feelings and the beauty a healthy loving relationship can bring,rather we are going to talk about the other side of love, the pain and the hurt and the heartbreak love can cause, which almost all human beings happen to experience at least once in their lifetime! So why, it is very painful and it hurts, a lot, if a romance comes to an end, unexpectedly, either because one of the two people involved has fallen in love again with someone else or because of disagreements or personality conflicts?
Maybe, if you would have a better understanding of what on a deeper level of your mind and emotions, really goes on when something like this happens, you may get some emotional relief, if you might be going through some breakup.
By looking deeper at the difference between the subconscious mind and the conscious mind, and also know a bit about the intelligence of the heart and its magnetic field (The HeartMath Institute's research has proven the heart has actually neurons and is intelligent, even more so than the brain) -you will understand the reason, you feel really hurt and totally lost and alone and everything around you just looks and feels terrible..if someone you love or with whom your are very much in love- decided to leave the relationship, which is very much connected, to something or some experiences that occurred to you when you might have been very small, maybe 6 or even much younger.
It may have been that your favorite uncle or even your grandfather whom you loved and above all, trusted very much, might have promised you to take you to the movie after lunch. So you might have asked your mother to help you dress in the best outfit you had and prepare yourself for the exciting event with your favorite person, and maybe you might have waited and waited for hours, in the back yard, with a boring aunt, waiting for your grandfather to come and get you, and time passed by and in the end it became dark and it was time to have supper and your grandfather never came to get you and take you to the movie as he had promised you.Then before going to sleep you might have discovered that your grandfather had actually taken your older cousin to the movie instead than you.
Imagine how you felt when you found this out?
Betrayed? Cheated, abandoned, rejected, or all together. Your grandfather had not intended to hurt you, he might have wanted to take you to the movie, but then he might have thought you were too young and it may have been too boring for you to watch a long movie. However, since you were too young and the conscious mind had not yet developed, you could not understand this, and you could not express or process these negative emotions and you stored them in the basement of your mind.. then you forgot about them, you grew up and then met the perfect guy or girl, and fell in love for the first time, then he/she decided to leave you. I wonder if you start to get a better understanding of where this is leading and why you feel this way now in the present time???
There are also other reasons why you feel so hurt and we will continue talking about this matter in my next post, to cover them.
Please, visit this blog in a week or so to read the continuation of this post, in the meanwhile, your comments, questions are all so welcome